losing touch

It seems funny to me, somehow, that my last post on this little blog is called “arguing with calendars.” I grappled with my father’s 60th birthday, and yet made no mention of the fact that I turned 25. Or that I attended my 10th anniversary Coachella. I have nothing new to say besides noting that […]

June 4, 2013

arguing with calendars

My father turned 60 on Saturday. Even now, typing that out still seems like a lie. I knew his birthday was coming up, but when my mom first mentioned that it would be his 60th, I was a little stunned. I stopped, considered the math, and conceded that yes, rationally speaking, he must be 60. […]

March 25, 2013

Lines, overlap, and empty space

Ashley Riordan, who I still just want to call Write To Reach Ashley, wrote a post a month ago called The secret life of everyone you know. It’s wonderful and you should read it. In short, no matter how well you know people, there is almost always more going on than you realize. Everyone you […]

March 20, 2013

Sunshine, rainbows, and trainwrecks-in-progress.

One of my big blogger conflicts in the last couple weeks has been juggling two ideas that seem somewhat at odds with each other. First, I realized how bullshit it is to keep trying to pretend that things are sunshine and rainbows when they aren’t. Life gets hard and messy and I think that we […]

March 18, 2013

Childhood Stories #20sbprompt

I’m not sure if I mentioned this, but back in January I applied to be one of the 20sb Community Managers, because of my inability to understand how important that emotional-wiggle-room thing is. If I have an extra 5 minutes in my day, that means that I am free to take on more things, right? […]

March 15, 2013

It takes a (blogger) village

For all the self-indulgent bullshit that I fill this blog with, I can’t stress enough how important other people are to this. Yes, I’m mostly writing my little notes to myself, but even though that is how I write, it changes when I hit publish. I started this blog right after I graduated from college. […]

March 13, 2013

Gas Money Crisis

My bloggy BFF Lorraine and I talk about a lot of things all the time. That was a really pointless intro. I had typed something more specific about the thing that this post is actually going to deal with, but it was a lie, you see, because I actually email her way more than is […]

March 11, 2013

Travel Tips: Ditching the time share

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March 7, 2013

Headspace Aesthetics

The shame of taking an excessively long time to finish my thesis and having to quit my job because I can manage neither my job nor my finances inevitably means that I have a lot of unpleasant shit crowding my headspace right now. It’s ugly up here. But there are so many hugely important things […]

March 6, 2013

There’s usually a part two.

I had this whole thing going about sharing all the stuff and being less guarded and more willing to own my shame and all that good stuff, but I realized, even at the time, that I couldn’t get all that into one post that was any reasonable length. So yeah, there’s a bit more. And […]

March 4, 2013

Emotional Transparency

When things get bad, the last thing I really want to do is talk about how much things suck. Partially this is because when I start doing that, out loud, to other people, I become aware of all the things I should be grateful for and the thousand ways it could get worse. I’m also […]

March 1, 2013

Endure/Overcome

In my last post I mentioned this post, which I wrote first. Now that I feel like I’ve prefaced it with some vague disclaimers, I feel a lot more comfortable posting it. It is all sorts of redundant after the last post, but this is useful for me in the weird sort of personal archiving […]

February 27, 2013